May 08, 2017
Compounding Time – Tear Sheet Exercise
We bring you a new tear sheet exercise developed by Brian Frye to help leaders connect and reflect on God’s movement in their lives.
Many of our readers got to experience Compounding Time first hand at Hitchhikers: Salt Company last month. Now we bring the tool to our entire audience. Watch the video to see Frye explain how to use it and read the longer version to go even deeper. Here is a link to the PDF mentioned in the video.
Time needed: 45 – 90 minutes
Group size: 4 – 300 participants
Purpose: to increase self understanding, cultivate relationships among participants, and give participants a deeper understanding of God’s activity in their lives
Materials needed: Wall sized tear sheet and large sharpie marker
Quick Tips for Facilitators:
- Be prepared with your own responses to the questions
- Ask and state the questions so that your audience, who is made up of different personality types and processors, can think and formulate responses.
The idea of this exercise is to help people see that they have a limited amount of time to live. Ask the question: “What’s the most important thing that you can do with the days, the hours, and the minutes of your life?”
80- your age=____ (2 minutes)
- This equation is used to demonstrate how little time that human beings have on earth.
- Ask the audience to write down the number 80 and subtract their age from it. That gives them the number of years they have left on earth.
- This is a pivotal moment of the exercise. Take time to discuss that number from a variety of different angles.
Birth year +80= Exit date (2 minutes)
- Have participants write down their birth year + 80. For example: if your birth year is 1976, add 80 to that and you get 2056. The number or year that they arrive at is their “exit date.”
- This will be received as a sobering moment and is critical for you to capitalize on it.
Optional: Psalm 139:1-18 “What is the idea that sticks out in your mind? (10 minutes)
- Have participants take time to read through Psalm 139. Give them time to read over the question and ask them to highlight in their Bibles, write in their margins, and/or write in their journals their key observations or take aways from the text.
Good Habits “With your limited time what are three habits that are indispensable to you.” (3-5 minutes)
- More specifically, what are the best habits that are consistently a part of your life that are making you who you are now.
- Example: A hard and quick work ethic, empathy for others, etc.
Bad Habits “With your limited time what are three habits that are indispensable to you.” (3-5 minutes)
- Based on where you are right now, what are the three habits that are most impacting you and people around you in a negative way.
- Ex. Talking too much, a bad temper, or chronically late to meetings etc.
Partner & Process (10-12 minutes)
- Instruct all participants to find someone around the room that they know least. Tell them to take their tear sheet to that new person and put their tear sheets on the wall beside that individual and have them work through everything they’ve done so far. Have one person share and instruct the other person to offer one clarifying question and one piece of positive feedback. Be sure in the process to tell them when to switch from one person sharing to the other.
How you think about life, relationships, money, politics, and just about everything else is impacted by your family. With this in mind, we are going to take a few minutes to process memories from cradle through college.
Best Moments- Birth to College (3-5 minutes)
- Think back to your life through college, and identify the three best memories you had growing up. What are they? Write them down.
- Ex: Family vacation, a significant conversation with a family member, etc.
Jettison – Things that you don’t want to be a part of my family (3-5 minutes)
- What three things did you see or experience, that you never want to be a part of your new and future family?
- Ex. Divorce, issues related to money, spiritually related concerns etc..
- Hint: For some, this may be hard to share and or extremely painful. Please honor the person with whom you are sharing or listening.
Essential- Things that you believe must be a part of your family (3-5 minutes)
- What is it that your family did that you want to do with your own? More specifically, what three things do you want to be a part of your family’s life from now until Jesus comes back?
Place on Altar (3-5 minutes)
- As you have thought about your time remaining on earth, is there anything now that you need to place on an altar before God, in His hands and His control?
- Ex. Related to past or current relationships, attitudes that need changing, holding too tightly to your sins or sins that others have committed against you, etc.
Steps of Obedience (3-5 minutes)
- Looking wholistically at your life, are there any steps of obedience that God is asking you to take so that you can be in greater alignment with him?
- Ex. Surrendering a big or small part of your life, reconciling a broken relationship, changing future plans etc.
Partner in Process (10-12 minutes)
- Critically important- Instruct all participants to find another person around the room that they know least. Tell them to take their tear sheet to that new person and put their tear sheets on the wall beside that individual and have them work through the last 5 sections. Have one person share and instruct the other person to offer one clarifying question and one piece of positive feedback. Be sure in the process to tell them when to switch from one person sharing to the other.
What do I need to do now? (3-5 minutes)
- Based on what you’ve just processed, what is one thing you know that you should do in the next 24 hours?
Partner in Process (5 minutes) optional:
- Instruct participants to remain with their last partner and have them pray for each other regarding things to place on the altar, steps of obedience, or 24 hour step.